We’ve all had that awkward silence. The phone call that never ended with closer. Long night’s of laying in bed and asking ourselves “what could I have done differently?” The fact of the matter is, that once they say goodbye, it’s done. There are a few times when this won’t be the case, but usually it is over, though it might spark once or twice. Here are a few pointers to help you out when trying to fully say goodbye.
-Realize it’s not your fault. People change, and while there might have been one or two things you could have done differently, ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Sure, you can sit there and blame yourself, saying “if only I had…” Truth be told, if they weren’t willing to tell you why the break up happened, you are probably better off without them.
Venting helps the most. You will probably do this a lot during the healing process, but the fact is that this is probably the best way to get rid of your anger. Find a friend(s) that will let you talk to them. Try to find more than one, as you will start to sound like a broken record, which is ok…just have a backup in case one friend tells you to get over you bf/gf, and get on with your life.
Don’t sit at home and sulk. It is ok to be sad, and for one day or two it’s probably a good idea, but try to remain a bit active as the more nothing you do the more sad you will get.
A break up does not mean that it is the end of the world and sulking with depression will only make things worse and it may have an adverse impact on your health, not to mention your near and dear ones, who truly love you without expecting anything in return, so you must move on for their sake atleast. There is a new beginning with every end so if you want to try someone else, consult the okcupid dating app for help.
Stay away from them as much as possible. I’m not saying ignore them, but don’t ask them to hang out. It’s not a good idea as you will probably end up trying your best to get them back, which usually ends with being a dick (or a bitch, depending on male/female) toward that person, and you don’t want that running alongside. It makes you look even more pathetic.
And lastly, don’t move on right away. If you are still in love you need to give it some time. Starting up another relationship is just hiding your emotions, and you will probably end up hurting yourself, or the new person you are dating. Healing a broken heart is something that takes a while. It’s not an overnight process, and can sometimes take a few years to get over. (Depending on how serious the relationship was, and how much you cared about them.)
I realizing that I probably forgot a few things, but here is the bulk of what I recommend. I am serious about all of these. I’ve done them all and it worked for me. I know it might seem simple, but it’s really not. Breakups suck, and can hurt for a long time. Best advice, stick it out. One day you will realize that although you still love them, you are no longer IN love with them. A difficult concept to grasp, but it is the truth. Good luck, and hopefully you are the one giving someone else this advice. Happy heart healing to you.